If You Are Lonely

I can be by my Self and injoi the company but I know there are many, especially in this digital age, that do not feel the same. Today, I push the pen for you:

Was it always like this or did you, once upon a when, have an active social circle? If it is the former and you don’t like it I’d highly suggest you memorize this:

When you change what you control, what controls you must shift.

This, my friend, is the principle of correspondence, in full effect. Dice life is a great way of bringing in the changes and its super fun as well. Check the article and see what happens but, in general, I’d recommend removing the crutches to which you’ve became accustomed in order to allow further options in. Deal with the stagnation by learning something else and developing your interests. Its amazing what can happen that brings you out of your shell and off the psychosocial treadmill for the spiral is but a vicious circle, set free. Keep this in mind and ye shall change your life, of this I’m certain.

If you are lonely now but once upon a when had a thriving social circle from who, for whatever reason, you grew distant its usually for one of three reasons:

First, those we begin the journey with aren’t often the same we end up with because we all evolve at a different pace. Now, granted, there are some people are quite content with plodding along at the same pace as the rest as they zone out in front of the TV set and mindlessly browse the web and share memes with their friends. They are surface dwellers, the 81%, and if you were one of them you wouldn’t be reading my articles. Those who started the trip with you and are now distant often are for good reasons because birds of a feather flock together and the potential for shift in resonance is what caused the split. Embrace it. Don’t chase what left, unwrap the gift of the present instead and use that time to develop your Self.

How does one do this? A million and one ways. That is why I’ve said you create the path by walking it but, in general, I’d recommend drawing up a list of what scares, what you wish and anything else that interests then set about reality testing to see how the situations fit. You, very often, end up finding your tribe this way and set off a string of goinseedenses that leave you grinning, in retrospect.

Second, once upon a when it was all good. Then it wasn’t. In this case it might be you that caused the rifts, shifts and problems. Maybe you said “No” to one too many invitations? Got a little too drunk, too often and made a rear end of your Self? Heck, it could be something as basic as letting your personal hygiene slip at the end of a bad relationship split that made your friends feel like you weren’t worth the effort. Whatever it was, be honest. Realize you are the problem and get to fixing it. There are plenty of things online these days that allow folks to link and meet up etc… so check one of them. If you still have a friend left from the original circle ask them to be totally honest and direct as you take in their vision. This alone is worth a billion fakers as the realness is priceless.

The third option is very interesting and that is they were never your friends in the first place. Now, in my case, they were present to ensure I misspent my attention and resources and invested in becoming the wackest version of my Self as they were, quite literally, agents of the Matrix who had their own little mission. If you’d asked me, back when before my brush with death, I’d have said:

“I spend quite a lot of time with this clique because they get what I kick”.

Except they didn’t. Not one bit as they had their own agenda and reasons for being present. But, that was my script. Yours may not be that dramatic but I’ve seen similar things, now and then, like the girl who should have been a vet or one who had spiritual talents and potential but kept on getting wrecked via pills and intoxicants due to her false friend. There are loads and loads like this and it all comes back to energetics mixed in with the fact you’ve never met a stranger so, sometimes, when the split kicks its only to create a space within which you can develop your Self so look at it from a new lens as its not a loss but a gift as it often marks a period of transition which shifts you from one groove in the record to the next which, hopefully, is of a higher octave.

Thing is the world keeps this stuff – that I call practical metaphysics – well hidden. The simple fact of the matter is that most people are quite discontent but scared to death of changing anything ergo they are well adjusted to mass social sickness that they daren’t question. How insane is this? What I’m saying is these time for quiet reflection can become quite a boon, if one chooses to invest well. For me these things happen quite regularly as periods come when I move some place, get plugged in to the circuit, do my thing and then vanish. Like the littlest hobo, there’s a voice that keeps on calling me. Down the road, is where I’ll always be. Every stop I make, I make a new friend. Can’t stay for long, just turn around and I’m gone again.

Who knows? Maybe tomorrow I’ll want to settle down but, for now, that ain’t how its going down so I speak what I live ergo it is what it is. The ultimate aspect to all of this is:

Learn how to befriend your Self. I mean that in the unconditional sense. I spend quite a lot of time in quiet introspection and its been a habit thats served me, real well, and quite possibly saved me from some bad outcomes and ill intent as when one is spiritually fluid its akin to the difference between a supple tree that weathers the storm with flex versus the one that is shook to its depths then snaps due to stress. The trick is to reframe what you see and realize you aren’t the voice in your head nor the sensations under this or even the DNA commands at a further depth. You are far more subtle and much more powerful:

Inner Sense aka the Witness in the flesh. Maybe that is the reason your attention was called within? Like the example of the nearly rich gent that once was a poor kid and how his depression was a huge coping mech that lead to him living in a mess before, like a true alchemist, flipping it all around and becoming the Quetzalcoatl Kid who set off in search of adventure that called him.

In many ways life presents gifts but most are so far from being Centered in Self that they know not how to interpret the signals due to immense alienation due to the vagaries of the System that installed a faulty operating system in their head, back when. Loads will pop pills, drink in the AM or create a fake life online to front to the rest like true Chapstick thespians whose surface glistens with an amazing performance designed to hide their parched nature within. Even from themselves. Thats whats so wild about it and why those who are OTT with type of flex are often the most disconnected from their true feelings and tend to call into resonance those just like them.

“You know, you’re as smooth as a brick” she said as she looked up with a face that was stuck in gear it didn’t know exists.

“How the hell did you break me down with a quick observation that demolished the barriers I’d erected, so well?“. The rest of that convo is in the article linked but, in a nutshell, sometimes you can have a phone with a thousand unread notifications, a schedule thats packed to the gills and all the trappings of success but, like Midas, none of it actually gets past your lips to digest. Stranger still is there are plenty like this that will rail against the truth when it presents as their coping mechs will not allow them to acknowledge the real when it spills from the lips of a figment of their imagination. But, thats a deeper topic. This was just a quick blip that came, this instant, as I felt there was someone, out there, stuck in the web, that needed to hear this. Let me empty the clip with some inspiration before I dip:

Take a stock of your life. See how it ended up like this. Write down your strengths and weaknesses. What you can do well without thinking or training and what you wish you could accomplish. Imagine the the optimal, ultimate version of your Self and then step into the image. Maybe write that one the dice you roll, some time, as you role play to perfection. Change how you dress. Invest in a fragrance – scent is so powerful that most neglect it power to mood shift. Lie on the bed and kick and scream for forty five minutes. It may seem strange at first but when that etheric vomit kicks in and the brain relinquishes control of the flesh the spiritual shall come pouring. What else? Oh yes:

Speak to the child within. Thats a great starter for ten. Try bouncing on your feet with whole body vibration for as long as you can handle then standing perfectly still without moving a muscle for the exact same period. Lie on the floor and breath into your abdomen so your kidneys feel the press whilst keeping your legs bent and neck relaxed as you pretend to be a security guard on your nose that checks the quality and temperature of the breath as it slides, out and in, with no resistance as you expand your awareness to keep track of the belly, nostrils and throat as well – all in the same instance – until it becomes effortless. The air should naturally pour in and out itself with no effort or stress needed.

There, that should do it. Try and aim for forty five minutes and then the same, lying, in silence with legs stretched, palms facing the ceiling (with closed lids), as you allow your Self to melt into the state you just created. Notice your awareness and the shifts within. To the Soul that called out, I heard you on FM. Here’s the help you requested on your divine mission in the flesh. All the best.

Till we meet again