I’m going to share a most simple method of shaking your BS down to the ground and getting to the bare metal of what is. How to hack your human nature, in a nutshell. Ready to commence?
Why?
Or:
Why not?
Thats it. Grab a pad and pen. Write down a few areas where you are stuck on not making the progress you wish and then keep on hitting your (false) self with the why or why not? Example:
I’m broke. I hate it. I wish I was rich.
Why?
Because I want to enjoy shiny things, do as I wish and stunt on the net so the models come running for a taste of my success.
Why?
Validation, I guess.
Why?
I don’t feel enough, as is.
Why?
My mother said I reminded her of my father and he was a deadbeat that left.
Why?
I don’t know. Probably because she was an insufferable bish that was hard to tolerate and impossible to please. She’s the reason I’m a mess.
Why?
Because of what she did. All the things she put in my head and I never really thought about till this moment.
Why not?
Its easier to blame other people and I’ve never stopped to introspect till you set me this stupid challenge and now I can’t pretend to ignore what I was fully aware of all along.
Why not?
It doesn’t work any more. You can only pretend to be ignorant until you swell the balloon of wisdom with a breath in. After that expansion it never returns again to its previous limit and you’re forced to admit you get back what you put in and the rest is a load of crap you use to feel better about yourself. Thanks, now I’m depressed.
Why?
Because it feels like pushing a rock up a hill whilst rollerskating. There is a deep sense of sadness within.
Why?
Because its just “Why? Why? Why?” that never ends. Give it a rest. I don’t care.
Why?
Oh for Fs sake. Listen, this is getting irritating. I have half a mind to quit.
Why not?
Because I can’t unthink this now, can I? Look at what I’ve said. There is plenty of food for thought there to examine because its becoming obvious I’m the problem and I really, really didn’t want to admit this as its easier to blame the rich when I secretly want to be like one of them but spend most of my time karma farming on Reddit as those upvotes keep the dopamine flowing and brings meaning to my existence.
Why?
The opinions of strangers on the internet is quite important as there really is nothing else of worth in my life at the moment beyond doomscrolling and rushing to post some content in order to get that little pat on the head that feels satiating.
Why?
Because I hate my life, the person I’ve become, the opportunities I’ve wasted and the fact that I spend my time lying to myself about the realness that you’re forcing me to face and I don’t like you made me do this because I signed up to feel better, not worse, and your latest mind Game is driving me insane. At least dicelife was fun. This one just made me miserable.
Why?
I’m not playing any more. I don’t care what you say. I’m not replying.
Why not?
And there we have it. The root cause of his problem was the fact that he was miserable and everything else in his life was designed to hide this fact. Suddenly, on reviewing the session, he had innumerable vectors of attack to use against his (false) self that was currently at the helm and it was much better then echo chambering the “Eat the rich! Down with capitalism!” mindset on his favorite sub Reddits as he saw he secretly coveted the life they lived but was too caught up in coping mechs to do anything productive. From this session you could pick, lets say:
“My mother said I reminded her of my father and he was a deadbeat that left”.
And drill into this to further smash the fragments with another line of reasoning until you get down to the underlying feeling and then just feel it. Sit with it. Ask your Self:
“Is it true? Correct? What if I did the opposite?” and start to dream big because a lot of what holds us back is akin to a fully grown elephant that used to wrestle against a peg and chain, back when, and hasn’t realized its own strength. Yet. To meet and greet it one must face their inherited weakness that doth creep into the minds of men who live the life unexamined. As you can guess this can be super powerful hence its strictly for live men, not for fresh men, as you are responsible for your own emotional regulation contrary to what the triggered mob may say as that is, in the end, a tacit admission of weakness that expects another to do what you can’t for Self and its also a litmus test that shows the false one is at the helm as the really real knows the deal but is buried beneath layers of coping mechs.
Basically you are blowing apart the foundations of a life you detest. In this case the guy deleted his Reddit account with a yelp and immense protest even though he’d tracked the time he spent on the web left none spare for other things and was, in the end, totally repetitive and entirely predictable as he kept reciting the same script that didn’t even bring the results he wanted. Instead he hit the bricks and got out of the crib and did real world things which formed genuine connections and not false dopamine hits based on digital emulation. He filled volumes with introspection on what he’d learned from his parents and how much of it was actually valid and what he’d accepted without reality testing before rolling the dice with new options and trying on fresh modes of being for himself. The end result was scraping a lot of previously unexamined pain down to the bone and without the teat to suck that kept it all hidden there was no more room for investment in ignorance. Once you got your list pick what sticks out and frame points that are the opposite. Look for aspects in your life that prove this and are affirming. If not make them happen and reality test the new version of your Self that is more free flowing and rooted in the present moment than stuck with an old OS inside your head that doesn’t deliver the life you wish or suspect you’re capable.
If you keep doing what you did you’ll get more of what you had and thus it takes a radical shift in perspective to change things and this psychological hand grenade really does the trick as long as you’ve got the minerals to live your lyrics after you see the realness staring back at you in ink. You need to flesh out answers, as illustrated, not be boring and monosyllabic so note your emotions, reactions, tangents, bodily sensations, unfiltered impressions and random recollections as well because we are beginning to plumb the depths of your subconsciousness so expect the unexpected. Also, take note of your dreams as well as this type of chaotic thinking can generate immense night visions that are often dripping with symbolism, suggestions and help on where to introspect next because the truth of the matter is you have a genius within that genuinely wants to help but is generally constrained by the limits of your resonance and the fact that if you keep accepting what it sells it feels no need to switch the menu up a bit as the law of conservation is in full effect.
Did he become a rich, happy success with a stream of women flocking to his bed to entertain him? Of course not. Be realistic, he’d spent a decade on Reddit when most people his age were clubbing. He is, however, a heck of a lot more honest with himself and grounded in the present movement which leads to actual traction versus imitation and this builds a genuine sense of confidence which can only beget better things than circle jerking with the plebs using the latest opiate of the masses to validate your ignorance. Now, this is a real world hack in the authentic sense of the term we used, back when, before it went mainstream and people believed that mushing two pre-manufactured bits together made them elite when its no such thing. It is ugly but effective. Real work takes the kind of grit that most don’t possess, at the moment, and the above can be used in many ways like, for example, like challenging your deepest beliefs and assumptions about the world and how it is or various concepts you’ve invested in and pretty much anything else you can imagine from spicing up your sex life to ceasing the same argument as a couple. One word can be the cause of immense liberation if you are willing to keep digging as you’ll always come to an emotion that, once felt, often has a memory attached via a string that you previously couldn’t recollect but when you did it released a chunk of voltage as it melted some resistance you didn’t know you possessed because thats the hallmark of Adulteration and this is one of the steps on the Path you make by walking in order to awaken the Warrior within.
Till we meet again
