All You Have to Handle Is the Next Step

Paralysis of analysis can kick in when you’ve got a “To Do” list so immense that it makes a phonebook look svelte. See kids, back in the days before there was a net we had a big chunk of tree filled with peoples deets, ah forget it… Where was I at? Oh yes:

The easiest way to climb a mountain without getting overwhelmed is just to keep putting one foot in front of the next. I know, its a revolutionary process but its also remarkably effective and so easy to forget. Especially in a world which is app this, timer that and so many other things whilst you’re strung out clicking for another dopamine fix. All you need to do is keep the general direction you’re hearted in mind and then ask your Self:

“What do I need to do next?“

Thats it. If weight loss is your thing then walk away from the biscuit tin when autopilot munchies kick in. If productivity is what you’re seeking but your attention keeps leaking onto whatever the latest notification says then remove the distraction for the moment and get to handling your business for fifteen minutes then build. The problem with projects, wether small or big, is that a lot of people have (false) self defeating Patterns installed in their subconscious due to their upbringing, imperience or inheritance and they’ve never questioned them or examined them with their currently embodied presence in the moment. In effect you’ve got an allegedly fully grown being running around doing things based on the time they got a smack on their wrist at age six (if you’re caucasian) or the end all, be all ass whipping of the ages (if you’re melanated). Blanket statement I know but its there to show it matters not how stern the discipline was or if the event itself was no big thing because its all about the Relative Scale of Impact and as a kid the strangest of things can sprinkle the seed in your head around which the Pattern gets built, repressed and then leads to you feeling uncomfortable with the idea of success because it would contravene an internal rule you neither want nor recollect. It matters not to your subconscious however as it doesn’t think, in the classical sense, and simply follows a ruleset based around shapes, colors, emotions and such things which are cross referenced with the database of imperience then presented as the way to best proceed next.

Many entries are mistyped, miskeyed or misplaced because the process is imperfect and there are various other factors at play as well. Put them all together and you get a mess. I don’t think I’ve met anyone who made it through their formative years unscathed. Some were blown away a personal thermonuclear warhead obliterated their inner safety whilst others got a light tap and look disapproving as they were told “Never do that again”. Now the interesting this is those that were detonated often stand a better chance of healing as they know what they went through was immense and off the chain and thus want to do something about it as they see the Patterns effects writ large on their day to day. Those who were merely grazed have a harder time grasping this and thus have much more subtle problems (which they usually deny as well. “Its not a bug, its a feature”). Looking at the latter example the kid was around three sitting at his fathers desk pretending to be him as he emulated him working and was scribbling away furiously with his pens. Most was on the paper but lots was also pouring onto the natural, unvarnished finish that cost many pounds and pence but the childs concentration was immense as he was caught up in the pleasure of pretend and what he intended to show his parent as he imagined how proud he would be at what he sees.

He hears the door click as his father walks in and beams up at him and says “Look at this!” as he smiles about his efforts and perfect timing. “I’m working hard to be the best, just like you said!” he exclaims as he notices his dads attention is not on the paper but the state of the desk as he looks at him with a glance that chilled his thrill and says “Never do that again” and hands him back his slip and moves him away from the desk and out of his presence.

Can you see how a Pattern would be formed in that event? Can you see how easy it would be for the Adulterated man that grew from this kid to constantly self sabotage by taking on immense projects he never had a chance of completing? In doing so he would conform to the Pattern and continue receiving the same disapproval he had then. All from one event, in one childhood, in one life on this planet. Now multiply that by the potential situations to mess up between zero and ten then sprinkle in the fact that both parents are running not only their Patterns in their heads but also the ones they inherited and multiply that by billions and you’ll see how and why we’re in the mess we’re in as a collective and why you are both the solution and problem.

The nuclear child previously mentioned knows something bad happened and it was way more extreme than it needed to be and this in turn makes the Pattern so huge that it either dictates everything or it pokes into his awareness in such a way that he starts to chip away at it, bit by bit, and thus generates internal freedom as its obliterated. A lot of these kids develop a sense of rigidity and need for perfectionism in the sense that “If I can control all of the variables nothing like this will ever happen again“. This generates immense stress, burnout and all kinds of addictions. All to keep the Pattern hidden. Like I said its not as simple as one size fits all as there are so many variables at play when it comes to your heritage, your innate strengths, potential for handling problems, general environment, resilience, fortitude and many non-physical aspects as well that coalesce to form your Earthbound experience. Its why I often refer to the difference between coal and diamonds because pressure is the key that makes one glisten with strength and radiance but everyone wants to shine and no one wants to cry in the process as they shed the skin of their own personal hell. Its an odd thing about this realm. Anyway, back to the topic:

All you have to handle is the next step. Know where you are (Point A), look at where you want to be (Point C) and in between these two is what you need to be doing, right now, instantly, this very moment (Point B). It will always be one thing. You don’t need to chart or distill, no minute minding or anything. Matter of fact you already know what it is so why are you still reading this? Go on, handle your business.

Till we meet again