Have you ever met a people pleaser? Maybe its you? Maybe it is and you don’t even realize this because your living situation, whilst developing, was such a mess that this coping mech grew to overwhelm your potential like a weed choking a rose that was then leveled over with cement. You can bet your last which one made it through a crack whilst standing on the others head, yes? Let me take you back in time:
As a child we are far more sensitive to the world and our position in it. Its a curious mix of expansion and contraction as this is what allows us to check its safe to continue playing. Think of it like the child who is out, with friends, and then momentarily runs in, breathless, to update his mother on what kicks. He isn’t doing this for her. Its for him. Its for the reassurance that something is solid and calm when the adrenaline is pumping. If you didn’t get this or, worse, the ones you sought comfort from had their own problems they either insisted you fix or treat like you caused them then join the gang. Congratulations, you may just have a Warrior within. This is the rose, buried in the cement of people pleasing or the flip, black sheeping…
If you feel hyper vigilant, are constantly concerned what others think, putting them ahead and treating yourself like a rear end then there is high chance you’re engaging in the fake safety of people pleasing. Its a demon, plain and simple. That is the best way to look as it as it gives you a handle to rip of the mask you’ve worn like your countenance. The problem is, for some, they’ve been lying to themselves for so long the truth stings to admit. Plus they have a laundry list of fake proof that this isn’t what I said it is. As championed by the voice in their head. Read this article to see how two words caused a thorn to fold in that created a choke hold like a too tight pearl necklace you didn’t know you were wearing. You know they’re formed by constant irritation, yes?
Those who are taking without caring are doing exactly what you expect in this realm because when the strong wish to eat the weak ensure they’re fed or they’re next on the bill. Its a cruel world and this truth underpins this. The facts as they stand are, my friend, you are actually extremely powerful but equally afraid of it. Maybe, back when, your parents reacted brutually when you were developing as they stomped all over your free will. It could have been constant onslaughts from all directions that had you wondering what type of hell you’d incarnated in or one undeniable shock that broke the lot and nothings ever been the same since. I know these pains as I lived all of them. And then some. They tried to bury me dead but still I rise instead… Thats the mindset need to crack the pavement so lets get to it, yes?
Grab a pad and pen and truly ask your Self what your reasons and motivations are for doing what you did for the rest? Is it a habit? Because you can’t help saying yes? That one, in particular, is an immense hint because we all know really well how the “No” habit rises in kids so you could confidently bet a chip that this met with massive resistance from one or both parents. You need to take a total inventory of ages zero to six. Write down all you can recollect then feel beneath the neck to sense the emotion when you repeat the statement:
“Inner child, tell me how it was back in (year you picked) when (this event) happened?”.
Sit with it. Sometimes it comes slow, other times can be quick. Once you rebuild the relationship then its on and cracking like a whip and everybody shall grin. Well, except for the voice in your head, that is. Much to its chagrin as this reps the weed that feeds and the concrete is the crap this world poured in your head and said “You better accept this, or else!”. Its all brutality, in the end. Think of it as spiritual circumcision that aims to snip what another sent as perfect. That should tell you everything, yes? There is a massive difference between the original blueprint and what the architect did, you dig? No matter though, we’re in the mix with the Opponent playing the hands dealt to win ergo do the Knowledge and be one up on the Game, my friend.
Keep doing that until you fill in the gaps, reclaim the emotive waters past and start conversating with your true other half. Like the article says, push the pen, look within and keep upping your res. Start reality testing as mentioned in this article and see if they do for you what you would for them. Some trees stand out in the forest of ignorance and this is the moment you take an axe to these one way friendships that see you as a meal ticket. Another thing, of interest, is to recollect the tone/emotion/wavelength they present and see if you can recollect an earlier event, whilst developing, that bears resonance. Come face to face with this and what how easy it is to refuse future requests as you’ve dove down to scratch the true case of the itch and thus no more digging at a pic which is the wrong time, place and location. Are you spotting the tricks of the Opponent in your head? When it starts to protest, recollect that negative thoughts are there to challenge. “All lies!” Is a great anthem when it tries to guilt trip you with that or this or says you’re terrible or reminds you of things that sting. Actually, the last one is worth sitting with. Turn the volume up on the sensations, take the remote from the them and then get comfortable with the pain and feelings as they release, steaming, like vapor from the top of your head as the stone in the pit of your stomach melts. That one is exceedingly powerful. After doing this get up, stomp and yell banging your heels on the pavement as a way of grounding your energetics as well then breathe in golden light from all directions to fill the gap thats left. This is important as its the reason why people leave bad relationships and then find someone identical out of the many people they could’ve picked.
We are creature of habit but they were built and programmed in stress and ignorance, back when, and the Devils greatest trick is keeping your best strengths well hid behind the fears you daren’t address. Kinda slick, huh? This is the Game, friend. Embrace the pain to win it or choose to live in ignorance of the force behind the curtain as you live, die and are mindwiped back into the flesh again hence the NDE tunnel with a light at end as you pop out from between another mothers legs. All of these relationships are terrestrial, in the end. I say that because some may find it hard to disconnect and place immense value on them but they are just part of the trick to keep you trapped in this realm of ignorance hence why I’ve said one must be totally detached but this doesn’t mean you’re heartless. Far from it as you are so generous you give them the same unconditional acceptance you’ve bestowed upon Self and that changes everything as you expect nothing from them and thus choose to give only what you wish ergo none of the usual emotional blackmail and headtrips that make up so many connections. I lace that as a hint because once you’re being real with Self you can expect the fakes around to start squirming. It will often be your nearest and dearest who comment “I don’t know whats got into him” or “Who does he think he is?” as they scheme and plot to bring you down a peg or ten. Why? Because change terrifies Slaves. Its just the way it is. They are so well adjusted to mass social sickness that one who enlivens their spiritual immune system is felt as a threat that must be extinguished by, you guessed it, that voice in their head. Ironic how there is but one Opponent who manifests as billions. If that isn’t the greatest trick the Devil ever pulled then I don’t know what is because where agnostic or religious I’m speaking on pure consciousness aka the all of everything which you can picture as a the flame which lit the candle of the mind encased in flesh so it behooves one to tell the difference between what is real and permanent versus temporal ignorance.
Do the Knowledge, my friend. If not for nothing else then to prove me incorrect cos I could just be bumping my gums on the web talking a whole load of nothing (as the voice says) or maybe, just maybe, you’ve been tricked into living a life that a little less than authentic? Reality test. I challenge you to challenge your Self. As a parting shot, let me lace you with this:
One who constantly looks to the outside for security and reassurance is, tacitly, admitting they lack those resources within. The other end of people pleasing is trying to be who they said its worth keeping up with or sporting a huge ego as you Thunk you do it big on the web and soak up the dopamine hits. Its all the same kettle, just different fish, boiling. Actually, make that frogs in the kitchen and get to leaping much to chagrin of the chef who hates this one weird trick because one you click that you’re a cosmic serpent undulating through time and you can speak to these younger aspects its amazing how stress in the present doth vanish as it all stems from the Adulteration of Inner Sense but thats another topic. For now, do the Knowledge and see what kicks as the wavelength shifts which proves reality takes place inside your consciousness and all you interact with are nothing more or less than figments of your imagination…
This is the Path of Power, my friend. An old way to a new innerstanding which certainly beats the alternative with a riding whip as who the F wants to spend their life like an orphan that begs when, in reality, none of this exists without them? Flip the script and tables as well as you didn’t come to sit at them but thats another trick of jolly old Saint Nick aka the lord of this realm who you tell your kids is real swell as he brings them material gifts and excess in exchange for a simple token offering but, just like the Devil, can’t enter on the reg and, in another curious sync, is linked with cloven hooves, extreme temps and the color red… Hmm, the Dual Reality Principle strikes again! Maybe all those dyslexic kids sending letters to Satan had it correct, eh? Just like the poor schizos clicked they aren’t the voice in their head before their life went to a living hell… More to heaven and earth, my friend as above these seas, Adulterated, there flows a current of pure Inner Sense. This is where the Warrior swims. In but not of this realm and that distance brings a gift as its the shift between “Imperfect” and “I’m perfect”.
Gift your Self the space. Do the Knowledge and vacate the ignorance within as you reclaim your seat at the helm of your consciousness for you are it, my friend and I am just a figment of your imagination telling you what you refused to comprehend from within as your body is constantly talking but who listens, in the end? Only the 8% capable of awakening the Warrior within hence “Each one, teach one” is the mindset…
Till we meet again
